We’ve all seen the show, or heard of it at least— a screaming, pouting, control-freak bride-to-be torturing everyone around her as she plans her wedding day. As I began planning our wedding, I watched the show and cringed, thinking I would never be that way. I’m too mature for that kind of behavior. The reality… there is fine line between being organized and having an opinion and becoming a Bridezilla.
Planning a wedding is much harder than I’d anticipated. I tried to approach the whole thing from a relaxed point of view. “Hey, I don’t care. I just want to marry my man.” But eventually, I was sort of pushed into have more of an opinion, just to get things done. No one is going to decide your colors for you. Or pick out the flowers. Or tell you want to wear. Or what song to walk down the aisle to. Or what to give as favors. Or who is invited…the list could go on, believe me. So, despite my initial laissez faire attitude, as we near the culmination of the project—the wedding day—I’m invested in my choices and I care.
I’ve yet to scream at anybody but there have been some tears—privately. I do want things to be a certain way now that I’ve really had to envision and design this huge party. I have a timeline and things need to get done in a certain order to help alleviate a lot of work at the last minute. This has been the hardest part for me and my partner. He doesn’t think my stress about the timeline is warranted. And for the most part he is right. It’ll be what it will be and in the end we’ll be married. But as the project manger of this shindig, I’m trying to keep this boat afloat and that requires a certain management style.
There have been crucial moments where I could have lost it. For example, the invitations were cut slightly off. There is a little extra space at the top. I was irritated and considered re-trimming all 150 of them myself. Instead, I took a step back, and realized that they are beautiful the way they are and I’m probably the only person who will notice this slight flaw. I decided it wasn’t worth my sanity for it to be perfect.
And this is the perspective that keeps it all in balance. This idea, to let go of perfection, is the wonder tonic cure-all for Bridezilla. It’s the elixir of grace that can keep the monster at bay. I’m getting married to a man that is a perfect match for me—neither of us being perfect, but perfectly imperfect. Our wedding will be perfectly imperfect as well, and that’s the kind event everyone can really enjoy.
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When planning a wedding, its not gonna be easy… There would really be some pressures as expected and it takes a lot of patience to finally finish everything before the said date. But then I agree with you when you said that you have to let go of the perfection and just consider the fact you’re getting married to the man you love, and that’s much more important no matter what.. That would actually lessen the stress for the whole time of the planning process.. Nice post! I enjoyed it!
Thanks for the reminder! It’s so easy to forget, especially when it is your wedding!