Confessions of a Bride-to-be: Beyond the Event
Last time I wrote, I expressed my frustration with getting my wedding plans underway. After a long brainstorming session with Mr. C, we’ve decided to have our wedding cake and eat it three times. A small intimate ceremony and dinner in our current home town, followed by two fun parties: one in my home state, then one in his. Now, I’m interviewing venues and making plans to send out save the date cards. I’m having much more fun with this portion of the planning. Through out this process, Mr. C and I have been making effort to remember the main goal, to become husband and wife.
Many engaged couples go through counseling or religious training before their wedding day. Communication and conversation is the cornerstone of our relationship. Since we decided to get married, we’ve been having structured and unstructured conversations about topics that are important to discuss before marriage:
- Children: Do we want children? What are the financial and emotional strains having children may put on our relationship? Who will be the primary care givers? How do we envision our roles as parents?
- Finances: What are our goals? What is his spending style and what it mine? Who will be in charge of paying the bills and keep the family budget?
- Household chores: What is the division of labor in the house? What do we expect from each other as housemates and partners?
- Health: How is our health? Is our insurance coverage enough? What are some areas we could be better for each other and ourselves?
- Affection: How important is sex and intimacy? What are our expectations? How might our affections change over time? We established an open channel to discuss affection and intimacy.
- Religion: What are our spiritual and religious beliefs? How do we want our children raised? How do we approach spirituality and what role do we expect it to play in our lives?
- Friends and family: What are the boundaries and roles of our friends and family in our relationship? Does either of us foresee issues or challenges with friends or family members? Can we respect and honor each other friends and family?
- Career: What are our long-term and short term plans? Is relocation an option? Will both of us always work?
It has been an enlightening process. Our conversations have served to only deepen our love and affection for each other. So, I ask you dear reader, in your opinion: what are some important questions or conversation to have before marriage? Please leave your suggestions or feedback in the comments.
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