Return of the Dress of the Month!
From December, 1999 to March, 2006, Wholly Matrimony was proud to host a Dress of the Month contest. While the contest has been on hiatus for awhile, we’re excited to announce that it is making a return this fall!
Submit the details of your dress by August 20, 2008 here for consideration as the first Dress of the Month in 2008 - and be sure to check back on September 1, 2008 to see who the winner is!
The rules are simple and few. Unlike the former Dress Contest, anyone is eligible to participate in the Dress of the Month Contest! We want real brides in real wedding gowns. No supermodel magazine scans or “on the rack” shots, please. You must have at least one photo of your dress online at the URL you submit, so that we can see what the dress actually looks like on you. (Multiple shots from multiple angles are preferred.) E-mailed photos are not accepted!
Please enter the Dress of the Month Contest only once every three months. Contest winners are asked to display an award (shown here) at their web site, with a link back to this site. Photos entered must be available for current and future use/promotion by the owner of “Wholly Matrimony!”. So if you are sitting there staring at your monitor and thinking, “Hey! My wedding dress was beautiful too… I could win this award… no scratch that, I must win this award!” — why not fill out the “Dress of the Month Contest” application — and prove it!
The contest is now continually updated to archive each Dress of the Month. We’ve also added a”With Honors” showcase of former dresses submitted. Good luck to everyone who decides to enter their dress…and as always…”may the best wedding dress win”!
Please visit the official Dress Contest website to see past annual winners, finalists, semi-finalists, and honorees.
You can see past winners here:
You might want to also check out the With Honors Winners, here, and here; and the last annual dress contest, which will hopefully return next year! Stay tuned for details!
Don’t Need Nothing But a Good Time!
What an absolutely fun and fabulous idea. Jannine was planning an ’80s theme wedding reception, and included a line on the RSVP card asking guests to “Suggest Your Favorite ’80s Song”. She said her family was skeptical at first, but in the end they got suggestions like We Got the Beat by The Go Go’s, We’re Not Gonna Take It by Twisted Sister, Melt With You by Modern English, and Raspberry Beret by Prince.
I’m a huge Go Go’s fan, and really I would have been happy having any of these songs played at my own reception, so I think it is a fabulous and FUN way to include your guests in your planning!
Speaking of planning, she gives some really, really great advice in her post:
Some advice:
Before you even start planning a wedding, discuss with your fiancé what you really want out of your wedding. Do you want a big or small wedding? Where do you want it? Why do you want it? Last November, sitting on the beach in Kauai, we discussed all of these things. For us, having our friends and family be part of what we are committing to is very important. We want to have a really fun party to celebrate. However, we do not want to make a mockery of our vows so we are having a separate morning ceremony up a mountain canyon. This will be simple and sweet, no mullets, and crimped hair. After an afternoon of relaxing in the mountains we will gather again for the 80’s reception….good times!
I can’t find any information on how it all turned out - the wedding was a few weeks ago - but it sounds like it was a beautiful ceremony followed by a reception where the Guests Just Wanna Have Fun!
Have a fun wedding or reception idea we just have to know about? Tell us!
Map It!
I don’t know how I missed this site before, but what a cool thing to have for your wedding day! You can create a (free!) wedding map to share with all of your guests. Not only can you note all the wedding locations like the ceremony location and the reception venue, but you can also note things like restaurants, hotels, beauty salons, and your favorite nearby attractions. This is especially great for your out of town guests who might need some recommendations on things to do while they are in town for your wedding. I love it!
You can also store all of your vendor contact information on your map, hidden from public view, so that you have all of your information stored in one place.
If you make one, be sure to check out their tips page for some cool information on how to make your map fabulous!
Have you used Wedding Mapper? What did you think of it?
Wedding Timelines
Many thanks to Anne Ruthmann for today’s post and fabulous photographs! The wedding timeline is such a huge factor in your wedding day - here are some tips to help it go smoothly! You can find the original post on her blog here.
Your timeline is one of the biggest factors in the success of your event. So many things go into creating a timeline that works, so I wanted to share a few ideas about things to consider when it comes to creating your perfect wedding day timeline.
Getting Ready
Most weddings that start late are because of hair & makeup. Doing a trial can not only help give you a good estimate of how much time it will take, but it will help you figure out exactly what you want your wedding day style to be so that you aren’t spending time figuring it out on the wedding day. You also have to consider the benefits and drawbacks about where you’ll be getting ready and how many people from your bridal party will be getting ready with you. Whether you get ready at a salon or have a stylist come to you, figure that each person will need about one hour of a stylist’s time, and the bride may need two hours or more depending on the complexity of the styling. So while one stylist could take care of 5 girls in 5-6 hours, two stylists may be able to do the same work in only 2.5-3 hours. If bridesmaids are planning to use their own stylists or go to their own salon, suggest that they make their appointment at least 2 hours plus travel before they need to be anywhere.
Getting ready at a salon can give you access to more stylists at once as well as credit card processing and any other amenities that the salon offers. Having stylists come to you at your home, hotel, or ceremony site can allow you to roll out of bed at the last minute, have snacks or drinks of your choice on hand, and hang out in your pajamas until you’re ready to get dressed. You may also want to take into consideration the kind of environment that helps you feel more relaxed. Some people may think a hotel room is great until they have 10 people in the same room all running around frantically while others feel uneasy starting the day with navigating traffic alone and being away from everything else they need to get ready. Choose an option that will help you start your day off right.
When considering where to get dressed, take into consideration how much stuff you’ll have to bring with you as well as how comfortable you feel traveling in your dress. Some people prefer to get dressed at their ceremony site so that they don’t have to risk getting their gown dirty or wrinkled by riding in a car or limo. Others prefer to get dressed at their home or hotel so that they don’t have to lug a bunch of items to their ceremony site and repack it after the ceremony. No solution is better than any other, they are just different preferences. If you plan your photographer to be there while you get ready, you may also want to consider the surroundings in which your getting ready moments will be photographed, as well as any travel time involved between locations.
Portraits
Some photographers are very particular about when and how they do portraits, so you’ll want to consult with your photographer to define the best plan of action for portraits based on your photographer’s preferred working style and the kind of posed images you want. If you’re trying to decide between portraits before or after the ceremony, here are a few things to consider: Before the ceremony, your makeup and outfits are fresh, you can have a private moment together before everyone arrives and pulls you in multiple directions, and you can reduce the amount of time that guests wait after the ceremony before sitting down for dinner. After the ceremony you may have to wait for all of your guests clear out before you can begin portraits, but you may care slightly less about the condition of your gown or tux and be willing to take a few more risks when it comes to creative portraits. Whatever you choose, make sure that the flowers will be ready when and where your portraits will be taken. The time of day may also influence when you would do most of your portraits, especially if you plan to have an evening or sunset ceremony. If your guests will be heading directly to the reception site, consider how long they will be waiting for your arrival. Whether you choose to do portraits before or after, the ceremony itself will remain the most powerful and emotional experience of the day.
Ceremony
Your officiant is going to be the best guide as to how long your ceremony is going to take. Guests generally start arriving up to 30 minutes before the scheduled starting time for the wedding (really!), which means that the wedding party and family need to be ready to receive guests or be out of view from guests as they arrive. There’s a myth that most weddings start late. Maybe it’s just my fabulous brides, but most weddings I’ve been to start on time or within 5 minutes of being on time! Some ceremony locations have strict times for when weddings need to be out of the site in order to accommodate another service or perhaps another wedding, which is why it’s even more important for your wedding to begin on time.
Receiving Guests
There are several ways to receive your guests and however you choose to do this, it is generally expected that at some point you will greet each of your guests. Here are a few different ways along with their various benefits or drawbacks…
- Pew by Pew (or row by row): this option is a very personal and intimate way to greet your guests and generally only involves the bride & groom greeting each guests personally as they leave from their seats. This option allows guests to remain seated until they are greeted and encourages guests to leave the ceremony site after they’ve been greeted. This method generally takes about 15 seconds per guest, which is only slightly longer than it would take for all of your guests to leave the ceremony site anyway. If you plan to make a grand exit with bubbles, birds, paper airplanes, or anything else, consider receiving your guests immediately after the ceremony.
- Receiving Line: when the receiving line happens immediately following the ceremony, it often ends up involving both sets of parents as well as the bride & groom at the end of the aisle or in a lobby immediately following the ceremony or at the entrance to the reception. Guests generally stand in line waiting to be received, but can make an alternate escape if needed. With more people involved in the receiving line, it can take a little more time per guest, but the wait in line generally keeps people moving fairly quickly. When done at the ceremony site, it’s still about 15 seconds per person. If you do a receiving line at the reception as your guests arrive, you can benefit from having a drink nearby, but you need to make sure that you can arrive before your guests. When done at your reception site, it generally takes 30-60 minutes because you’re greeting guests as they leisurely arrive.
- Cocktail Mingle: if you can plan to be a part of your cocktail time, you may be able to mingle with your guests during this time and consider it as an opportunity to greet your guests. You might not be able to visit with everyone, and people will definitely feel more comfortable taking more of your time with a drink in hand, but if formal greetings aren’t for you, than this could be a great alternative as long as you’re comfortable “working the room”.
- Table by Table: this has become more popular as churches have been more strict about the time that weddings can remain in the church after the ceremony (perhaps another good reason to schedule portraits before the ceremony), but this is by far the most time consuming method of greeting your guests. It sounds good in theory- greet tables of 8-10 people at a time during dinner, but it often takes 5 minutes per table unless you’re really good about not being too friendly. Because this often happens after dinner is served, it typically means that every other table is sitting around waiting for something to begin while the plates have already been cleared from their table. Even though I did this for my own wedding (hey, it sounded good to me too) I remember feeling pressured to visit each table, but I also felt as though the party was slowing down because we felt we needed to get to every table before we could move on. In retrospect, I probably would have chosen one of the other options if I knew then what I know now.
- No Receiving of Guests: I’ve also been to a few weddings where there just wasn’t any sort of greeting the guests. I’m not sure what the etiquette books would say about this, but hey it’s your party and you should do what you want to!
Reception
Whether your reception is immediately following or at a set time, guests will gladly enjoy cocktails and hors d’oeuvres for up to an hour before getting anxious about your arrival. If you have an extended amount of time between your ceremony and reception (more than two hours) than it may be good to provide suggestions for your guests as to where they could stop in the meantime. Less than two hours and you may have guests who arrive at the reception site early. If your ceremony and reception are in the same place, a cocktail hour may or may not be needed- obviously your reception site will have the best recommendations for you. The scheduled dinner time is often the least flexible time in the wedding day since the kitchen has been working most of the day to get the meal provided by a certain time.
If you’re doing a grand entrance, it takes about 15 minutes to get wedding parties organized and guests seated before announcing the bride & groom. Toasts generally don’t take more than 15 minutes (unless you know you have a long winded friend or family member) and can be done before the meal begins, while the meal is in progress, or after the meal. If you have champagne service for the toasts, you’ll want to know when the reception site can pour the champagne for the guests. If you plan to have your cake served as dessert, you may want to consider cutting it as part of your grand entrance so that it can be served immediately after dinner. The later your cake is cut, the less likely it is that everyone will actually get a piece of cake, or even know that it was cut, which could result in lots of left overs. Your caterer will give you the best idea of how long the table or buffet service will take for the number of guests that you have. Buffet service often takes less time than plated dinners because everything is served at once versus several different courses. After dinner is served, there’s generally a good two hours of partying if you have a young and lively crowd. Most older people or parents with kids at home tend to leave by 10-10:30 pm, leaving you with the people who will generally stay until the bar closes. Of course, every crowd is different and obviously you will know your crowd better than anyone else.
Final Thoughts
You hire professionals because they are experts at what they do. They’ve seen it all and they know what works and what doesn’t work. Don’t be afraid to call on the people you’ve hired to help you create a plan for success. They want to make sure you and your guests have a great experience and are often happy to help make sure that happens.
Anne Ruthmann is an international award winning Lifestyle Portrait and Wedding Photographer specializing in emotional and artistic photojournalism, soon to be based in the Boston, MA area with frequent travel to Chicago, IL; Detroit, MI; St. Louis, MO; Washington, DC; Los Angeles, CA; and all over New England! Her work has been seen in Brides, The Knot, and Photo District News magazines. Please visit her online portfolio and her blog to learn more about her and her work.
Would You Like a Button?
Feel free to take one, post it on your site, and share your love for WM! with the world!
Need a different size? Leave a comment and let us know!
-
RSS Feed
-
Badges & Awards
-
Buttons
Subscribe-
{ WM! } Sponsors
-
Share the Love!
- Spread the word about Wholly Matrimony! Download the button of your choice, save it to your server, and link back to us!
-
Other Things
